Chemistry

I found out recently that a lack of chemistry between two people is a big problem. Chemistry is the intangible thing in a relationship that ultimately leads to love. Without chemistry, a relationship can't last very long.

So, what is chemistry?

To me, chemistry is having something in common with that other person. A hobby, an interest or something you both enjoyed doing before you met each other. Chemistry is feeling just as happy being physically apart as being physically together. That is what chemistry is to me. Now, some may argue that it takes time and effort to build chemistry, but I disagree. Chemistry either exists or does not exist. There shouldn't be anything to work on.

Without this intangible, there are only tangible things. Now, the tangible things in a relationship feel good (oh yeah!), but that feeling does not last long and is ultimately harmful to both individuals. Let me illustrate this with an example:

Let a balanced diet represent chemistry and all the intangibles in a relationship
Let chocolate and ice cream represent the tangible things in a relationship

You can eat all the chocolate and ice cream you want, but ultimately it is bad for you in the long run because it lacks real nutritional value. If you keep eating these things, they will make you sick. But sometimes we lie to ourselves and to the other person and tell ourselves that the chocolate and ice cream have actual nutritional value. I made that mistake. It was a hard lesson to learn but I learned it. What I need is a balanced diet, not chocolate and ice cream.

There's my rant for today. No this post is not emo, just deep.